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Creating Your Own Secular Rituals and Traditions


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In her book "For Small Creatures Such as We," Sasha Sagan delves into the beauty and significance of rituals and traditions, presenting a secular perspective that finds wonder in the natural world and human experience. I know it's shocking to find out that some people have rituals and traditions that don't include a magic man in the sky, but it's true. Drawing inspiration from Sagan's approach, I want to explore the art of creating secular rituals and traditions, highlighting how they can offer meaningful, enriching experiences without any silly superstition or magic.


There is Value in Rituals and Traditions


Rituals and traditions are an integral part of human culture, serving various functions such as marking important life events, celebrating seasonal changes, and providing a sense of structure and continuity. They can also help build familial bonds. With or without a jealous and petty God, they play a crucial role in shaping our identities and experiences. In a secular context, these practices can be reimagined to celebrate the beauty of existence, the milestones in our lives, and the wonders of the universe without relying on supernatural beliefs. Some might even say the secular crowd does them better.


1. The Power of Personal Rituals


Personal rituals can be a source of comfort, reflection, and self-expression. They are activities or practices that you do regularly, which hold personal significance. This could be as simple as a morning walk to connect with nature, a weekly practice of writing in a journal to reflect on your thoughts and experiences, or creating art to express your emotions and creativity. Me? I swim each morning until my body won't let me swim anymore, to force myself to be alone with my thoughts. The key is to find activities that resonate with you personally and provide a sense of peace, joy, or fulfillment.


2. Celebrating Life’s Milestones


Major life events such as births, coming-of-age, marriages, and even deaths are traditionally marked by religious ceremonies. However, these can be reimagined in a secular context to focus on the human experience and the connections between individuals. For instance, a secular naming ceremony for a newborn can involve readings of poetry, expressions of hopes and dreams by family members, and a communal commitment to supporting the child's growth. Similarly, weddings can focus on celebrating the love and commitment between partners with personalized vows and rituals that are meaningful to them. You might even want to use a humanist officiant to conduct the ceremony and choose not to marry in a church.



3. Observing Natural Phenomena


Seasonal changes and astronomical events have been celebrated by humans throughout history. These can be wonderful opportunities to create secular traditions. Observing the solstices and equinoxes, for instance, can be a way to connect with the Earth's natural rhythms. Activities might include gardening, hiking, star-gazing events, or gatherings where stories and knowledge about the natural world are shared. My personal favorite way to celebrate is to cook up a feast and make my loved ones eat until they regret it.


4. Annual Celebrations and Festivals


Many traditional holidays have religious origins but can be adapted to a secular context. For example, winter holidays can focus on themes of light, warmth, and family during the darkest time of the year. Create traditions such as sharing what you’re thankful for, volunteering, or preparing an enormous, gut-wrecking meal with loved ones. Similarly, spring festivals can be a celebration of renewal and growth, with activities like planting trees or picnics.


5. Remembering Loved Ones


In dealing with death and remembrance, secular rituals can provide comfort and a way to honor those who have passed. This might include creating a memory book, holding a gathering where stories about the person are shared, or engaging in an activity the loved one enjoyed. Humanist celebrants operate in many places and can conduct a service for your loved on. The focus can be on celebrating their life and the impact they had on others


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6. Marking Personal Achievements and Transitions


Personal achievements such as graduations, career milestones, or significant personal growth moments can be celebrated through secular rituals. This could be as simple as a bowl of ramen with close friends or family, a solitary retreat to reflect on your journey, or a party to share your joy with others. The idea is to acknowledge and celebrate your hard work, resilience, and success, no god required.


7. Creating Daily and Weekly Rituals


Daily and weekly rituals can provide structure, comfort, and a sense of stability. This could be a daily meditation or mindfulness practice, a weekly family full-contact Catan night, or cooking a special meal every Sunday. These rituals can become anchor points in our lives, creating a rhythm and routine that can be both comforting and grounding.


8. Connecting with Community


Community rituals are a way to strengthen bonds and create a sense of belonging. This might involve organizing regular meetups for discussions, group activities like community gardening or sports, or even starting a book club. Block barbecues and communal garage sales are also rewarding. The aim is to foster connections and create shared experiences.


9. Embracing the Arts and Culture


Arts and culture offer endless possibilities for secular rituals. Attending Iron Maiden shows, visiting museums, participating in festivals, or even creating your own art can be deeply meaningful experiences. These activities can offer a sense of transcendence, connection, and appreciation for human creativity and expression.


10. Rituals for Reflection and Growth


Secular rituals can also be an opportunity for personal reflection and growth. This might involve regular practices like yoga, journaling, or attending workshops and talks. The idea is to create space for self-exploration, learning, and personal development.


11. Integrating Science and Knowledge


Incorporating elements of science and knowledge into secular rituals can enrich understanding and awe of the natural world. Book discussions on scientific topics, stargazing nights, or nature walks where you learn about local flora and fauna can be both educational and fulfilling. Attending debates or even engaging in them can also be a great way to create rituals while incorporating knowledge.



12. Building Rituals Around Personal Values


Secular rituals can reflect and reinforce personal values such as kindness, empathy, curiosity, and resilience. Design rituals that encourage these values, like volunteer work on birthdays, an annual “pay-it-forward” day, or setting aside time for family discussions on moral and ethical topics. Attending your annual pride parade is another example. This practice not only celebrates these values but also cements them in daily life.


13. Acknowledging the Human Journey


Recognize and celebrate the human journey in its entirety - the joys, sorrows, challenges, and triumphs. Create rituals that acknowledge personal and collective struggles, such as gatherings to discuss societal issues or personal milestones that mark overcoming adversity. These can offer support, foster resilience, and celebrate the human spirit.


14. Finding Solace in Solitude


Secular rituals don’t always have to be social and if you're anything like me, that's a relief. My social battery doesn't hold a significant charge, and I appreciate solitude. Solitary rituals can provide peace, introspection, and rejuvenation. This could be a regular practice like writing, solo travel, or simply spending time in nature. These moments of solitude can be powerful opportunities for self-discovery and even creativity.


15. Celebrating Human Connection


At the heart of many rituals is the celebration of human connection. Create traditions that foster this, such as regular family reunions, friendship anniversaries, or community service days. These rituals strengthen bonds and remind us of the value of our relationships.


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16. Embracing Change and Growth


Life is a series of changes and growth. Develop rituals that embrace this, like annual goal-setting gatherings, celebrating career changes or retirements, or even marking the start of a new personal journey or hobby. These can help to frame change as a positive, natural part of life rather than clinging to ancient myths.


17. Rituals of Relaxation and Self-Care


In the hustle of modern life, rituals around relaxation and self-care can be vital. This might include a weekly spa day at home, a regular yoga class, or a designated “unplugged” day where you disconnect from technology. These rituals can help maintain balance and wellbeing.


18. Tailoring Rituals to Personal Interests


Your hobbies and interests can provide a rich basis for creating rituals. Whether it's a monthly cooking club, a yearly hiking trip, or a book club, integrating personal passions into rituals can be deeply satisfying and fun.


19. Creating Space for Grief and Healing


Secular rituals can provide a framework for processing grief and embracing healing. This might involve annual memorials to remember loved ones, writing letters to express unresolved feelings, or creating art to work through grief. These practices offer ways to honor loss and facilitate healing.


20. The Evolution of Rituals


Finally, it’s important to remember that rituals can evolve. As you grow and change, so too can your rituals. They should be living practices that reflect your current state of being, beliefs, and values. Don’t be afraid to modify, discard, or create new rituals as your life unfolds.


Creating your own secular rituals and traditions is a deeply personal and enriching process. It allows you to honor the rhythms of life, celebrate your values, and create a sense of connection and purpose. In a world often dominated by religious rituals, secular practices offer a meaningful alternative that can be just as rich and fulfilling. By embracing the principles discussed in Sasha Sagan's "For Small Creatures Such as We," and tailoring them to your own life, you can craft a tapestry of rituals and traditions that uniquely celebrate your journey through the cosmos.


What are some of the secular traditions you look forward to? Let me know in the comments!


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