I try to up my ante every day by adding a lap or adding time to how long I swim. Recently, I’ve pushed myself up to about 70 laps, 60 of which are freestyle… because, let’s face it, you don’t lose Christmas-ass riding a noodle with Old Lady Evelyn and The Shallow End Gang.
Usually, I reward myself with a soak in the hot tub afterwards. It tends to feel a little like immersing yourself in geriatric soup, which really I don’t mind. I’ve always enjoyed the company of older people… their stories from back then, their prideful boasts about grandkids, the way they curse new things they don’t understand. I chat a little, and after about 5 or ten minutes, I hit the showers and head home.
Monday, however, I had just successfully pushed myself to swim past the hour mark, and realized that all the regular blue-hairs had gone home. I was the only one left in the pool. I pushed through some stretches, whining about it in my head and headed over to the hot tub. A new old lady was sitting in there, getting pruny. She was skinny, fit, with curly silver hair and a bright smile. I said hello.
“Great day for a swim, isn’t it?” She asked me.
Old ladies are really, really good at small talk. Like fucking pros.
“Sure is!” I responded.
“Do you come every day?”
“Yeah… well, weekdays I do.” I nodded.
We got to talking about how great swimming was, and how we missed getting in some laps when the big snowfall happened a couple weeks ago, and how this was such a great facility for a small town. She told me she lived here all her life save for 4 years she spent in Alberta. I told her I hadn’t even been here a year yet, but I was full and completely in love with the place.
Before I knew it, 15 minutes had passed and sweat was pouring down my face. I told her I had to go before I cooked myself in the hot water. I introduced myself as Courtney and she told me her name was Mary.
The next day, I pushed myself even longer, finally hitting the 70 lap mark which took me about an hour and 15. Again, the pool was deserted, and there was Mary, stewing in the steaming waters. I greeted her with a grin and she smiled back and the pleasantries began, Mary kicking my ass at small talk once again. Around then, a group of preschool age kids poured into the pool area for a lesson and Mary and I properly cooed at their adorableness.
“My son comes here for lessons with his school.” I told her.
“Oh? How old is he?” She perked up.
“He’s six. He loves to swim just like Mommy.”
She asked me what he could do, could he swim in the deep end? Could he tread water yet? I may have bragged a little bit when I told her that yes, not only could he do those things, but he also dove off the diving board, and did perfect little backflips into the water.
She clapped her hands together and smiled, “Oh, that’s so great for him, especially living near the lake!”
Just then, we heard the kids jump into the pool and were mesmerized watching these sweet little things keep their instructor on his toes. Every once in a while, we would let out a giggle at something funny a kid did, but other than that, we were relatively silent.
A few minutes into the silence, Mary broke it suddenly.
“I have a 16 year old grandson. He lives in Alberta.”
“Oh? Do you get out to see him much?” I asked.
“Well, he just had an aneurysm burst in his head.”
I cringed. My heart fell. It’s hard to know what to say to stuff like that. I always stick to my tried and true method: ask questions, listen to the answers.
“When did that happen?”
She told me it had happened a few days before Christmas. He’d spend the holidays and his birthday in the hospital. I asked her if he was okay. She told me the doctors said his recovery was coming along remarkably, but that he has to relearn a ton of things.
Her daughter had had to move to the city where there rehabilitation clinic was that he was being cared for in. She’d rented an apartment, and her other kids missed her.
“Wow. When do they say he will be able to be released?” I asked her.
“Well, the doctors are going to assess his situation in a week or two and see if he is fit to go home.”
“That’s wonderful.” I smiled.
“It really is. They told us it’s a miracle he’s alive.”
There it is. She even emphasized the ‘miracle’. I bit my lip.
“You know on the computer, you can ask all kinds of people to pray for you. My daughter spread his story around and lots of people prayed. It must have been all the prayers for him across the world. ”
Sometimes, I wonder if I have “Heathen” written on my forehead. I swallowed the words rising up in my throat: or it was the doctors. They tasted bitter but I smiled anyway.
“He’s such a good boy. He always went to church and Sunday School and followed God’s rule. I just goes to prove, that if you’re faithful and obedient, God will reward you.”
Wait, what? God rewarded your faithful and obedient grandson with an aneurysm? I wanted so badly to ask. Instead, I smiled and nodded. Sweat was doubling on my brow and I found myself grateful for the fact that I was in a hottub, and she couldn’t see me sweat my way through keeping my opinions to myself.
“He sounds very positive.” Is all I could muster, making sure to smile.
“Yes, I have no doubt God will fully heal him.”
Right. It will have nothing to do with his doctors, his therapists and his own determination. My grin must have looked forced by now.
“Well, I have to go now. You have a wonderful day!” She said cheerfully.
Unless this guy was your doc, his recovery probably had nothing to do with God.
Oh, thank God, no holy, I thought, exhaling ferociously. Apparently I had been holding my breath. I said goodbye and told her I hope her grandson does really well. I wasn’t relieved because her story was making me uncomfortable. It wasn’t. I was relieved because I got out of that situation without accidentally blurting out something about God, bullshit and giving the doctors some credit.
Every so often, I see a screen cap float around the intertubes of some douchebag atheist commenting on someone’s post thanking God for similar things. Sometimes, it’s making it another day with a terminal illness, or maybe it’s surviving a horrific car accident. Along comes some unhappy heathen to hijack a thread about something devastating and crushing, and turn it into a debate about whether or not God exists, and I gotta say, nothing could be any less cool.
Sometimes, it’s simply inappropriate. Sometimes, you have to put yourself aside and consider, what is more important in this moment? It’s hard not to respond to these absurd statements attributing human accomplishments to the big guy. You might chew through your fingernails or break into a sweat, but sometimes, you just have to know when to shut the fuck up and listen.